I think not telling her was the right choice. Sometimes more important than openness is having people be able to look at you without seeing the worst stuff you've done. Maybe if he's ever out of the situation and safe, then he could talk about all that he's been through. But for now, having less-complicated friendships and people who see the best in him is probably even more valuable.

By the way, since the I Solemnly Swear lock started, Terry has become the character whose posts/comments I'm most excited to read.